Monday, April 17, 2017


I have a story to share, 
It`s not in coherence with your chauvinism, So Beware

The story is not about some golden horses and cars, 
But about some ugly untouched scars, 

The story is about a girl, who wanted to be the queen,
not only she wanted to conquer  the land but the whole Marine, 

All her loved ones gave her up in the middle of the way
Only a few accepted her, rest left her dead and stray, 

Some of them betrayed her by stabbing her back
She used them as a ladder when the wounds stacked

She did not loose hope, moved on with horses and wagons
What else could you except, she`s after all the mother of dragons

In spite of all the challenges, the girl used to grow
With her soul 'naked' and wounds 'blunt' yet 'raw' 

While protecting the kingdom, she built the Empire
Not only she conquered everything but also fulfilled her prohibited desire

She became the 'man' she wanted to date
While attaining the charisma no one would ever hate

She burnt the rule-books and stood us as a 'Misaal',
She was not the "Khalessi", She was the "Khal" 

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Women! We also need to CHANGE

Women! We also need to CHANGE

We all know how we are harming our loving mother NATURE in various ways. For some of them we do not have solutions, for some problems we are trying to develop solutions and for most of the problems we have solutions BUT we do not want to implement them.

The reason we are not implementing is, we are so much into our COMFORT zone that we don't want to take a chance.

If we are talking about the "CHANGE" then in a country like INDIA it is the women who are looking for most of the changes. While implementing renewable energy is something which is not completely in their hand , there is something which they can do prevent our environment from a major problem.
The issue is using " Reusable Sanitary Napkins". OOPS! Is it something we are still ashamed of talking in public. While the multinational companies are making millions by selling sanitary napkins in the country with the second largest population, I have serious problem now with the existence of this product.

With no offence, Since my childhood I believe that if there is something very usefull or important for us it might have been developed by our ancestors. From Vedas to Geeta most of our hollybooks talk about all the scientific weapons and technology based things. Then why the most basic need of a women during her periods was not invented by them? Why during their childhood our mothers were dependent on those cloth and cotton based pads?

One may say they didn't had access to such products but I am convinced that our grandmothers were either aware of the side effects or they didn't found them worth.
Why we should opt for reusable products?

1. How about breaking a $718 billion industry?

It may sound like something anarchist but why we are paying the Multinational company for product which will eventually spoil our environment.
According to a survey one women throws 16,800 pads or tampons during her life time. Imagine the number of women in India those who are in their reproductive age. And now imagine the number of sanitary products we are throwing.

2. Reusable products are cheaper

Compared to our favuorite extra long wings Whispers, they are damn cheap.  A premium quality Napkin (Made of 100% cotton, these pads feature a comfortable soft flannel top side, 5 layers of absorbency, a built-in leak proof layer ) will cost you around 100 rupees. If we even buy 10 pads (in case they take time for drying during winters) then also we will spend only 1000 rupees.
AND, They last for 5 years :)
The normal quality reusable napkin starts at only 2 rupees.

3. The foremost reason is protecting our environment

Our sanitary napkins contains traces of plastic. Those parts are non-biodegradable, not only they pollute the environment but have health hazards for the animals those who might chew them, people collecting the garbage for recycling. No matter how many newspapers/ poly-bags were used to wrap them.

4. Protecting your health

The traces of plastics, or our so called liquid absorption gel does not allow airflow to our vaginas.  This will lead to infections, irritation and rashes.
A material called "Rayon" is used in the manufacturing of sanitary napkins. It absorbs all the moisture from the napkin but also from vagina leading to higher chances of infections and menstrual cramps.

5. Important to watch out the menstrual blood

This is something really important and something I recently learnt. Most of us tend to look at our periods as something disgusting. More like a formality we are bound to fulfil every month. However, actually we are blessed as menstruation is the best way in which our body tell us about our health.
The menstrual blood should be "Red" as fresh as if I cut my hand with a blade, without any clots. But as the sanitary napkins tend to make the blood dry and we seldom take an opportunity to touch or wash the napkin, We never realise how our health is depreciating.
It is more important for the girls going through menstrual cramps, PCOS, cysts and vaginal infections.

6. No need to settle for something so "White" and "Boring"

The good news is lets empower women in a a new way. Lets use the sanitary napkin of our favourite color. Lets break all the taboos related to menstruation and stop saying " I am Down" .

Let us CHANGE our thinking, our Way of living. Lets us PROTECT ourselves and our ENVIRONMENT.

Monday, September 22, 2014

Ki dasan main gallan apne punjab diya!!

Recently I encountered with many educated people with shameful facts about girl child....I dont know how a woman herself being a female can hate a girl child!! Looking at the present scenario of punjab , I am sharing my personal thoughts over it... 

Kī dasān main galān apaṇē punjab diyān,

 jithē sōhanī fasalān dī thān hudiyā barbādiyā 

kithē gayā ōha vēhlā gabarū muṭiyārā dā,

 huṇ lagadā hai mēlā naśhēyā dē ōjārā dā 

chuṇadē sī jō beej bai kē pīṛī tē,

 chaḍa ā'ē hai khētā nū nikē jahē sīrī tē 

kī dasāṁ main galān āpaṇē panjāb diyā. ....

Kyu dhiyān jaman tō karadē parahēz māpē, 

dahēja dē lōbhiyāṁ dē pāyē siyāpē, 

munḍē nśhēyā ca `pai kē māa piyō nū māradē',

ōhī māa piyō pōtē pīchē nuhān nū sāṛadē 

kī dasān main gālān āpaṇē panjāb diyā.... 

Sas jēhaṛī karadī daāj la'ī muḍē dā ghara barabād vī kō'ī puchē tū vī tān hōṇī "dhī" kisē ghar abāad dī,

ghaṭadī jāndī jithē giṇatī sōhaṇī mutīyārā dī vādadī jāndī giṇatī ōthē rōndē parivārā dī, 

saambh laindiyā dhiyān būdhē māpēyā nū,kahadē sī jō dhī'ē tū jamī hī kayō, 

lāan nālō damāg kūṛiyān nū mārana tē kar lō thōṛī mēhanata munḍēyā nū sudhāran tē..

ਕੀ ਦਸਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਗਲਾਂ ਅਪਣੇ ਪੰਜਾਬ ਦਿਯਾਂ 
ਜਿਥੇ ਸੋਹਨੀ ਫਸਲਾਂ ਦੀ ਥਾਂ ਹੁੰਦਿਯਾ ਬ੍ਰ੍ਬਾਦਿਯਾ

ਕਿਥੇ ਗਯਾ ਓਹ ਵੇਹ੍ਲਾ ਗਬਰੂ ਮੁਟਿਯਾਰਾ ਦਾ
ਹੁਣ ਲਗਦਾ ਹੈ ਮੇਲਾ ਨਸ਼ੇਯਾ ਦੇ ਓਜਾਰਾ ਦਾ

ਚੁਣਦੇ ਸੀ ਜੋ ਬੀਜ ਬੈ ਕੇ ਪੀੜੀ ਤੇ
ਛਡ ਆਏ ਹੈ ਖੇਤਾ ਨੂ ਨਿਕੇ ਜਹੇ ਸੀਰੀ ਤੇ

ਕੀ ਦਸਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਗਲਾਂ ਆਪਣੇ ਪੰਜਾਬ ਦਿਯਾ। ....

ਕੀਉ ਧਿਯਾਂ ਜਮਣ ਤੋ ਕਰਦੇ ਪਰਹੇਜ਼ ਮਾਪੇ
ਦਹੇਜ ਦੇ ਲੋਭਿਯਾਂ ਦੇ ਪਾਏ ਸਿਯਾਪੇ

ਮੁੰਡੇ ਨ੍ਸ਼ੇਯਾ ਚ ` ਪੈ ਕੇ ਮਾਂ ਪਿਯੋ ਨੂ ਮਾਰਦੇ'
ਓਹੀ ਮਾਂ ਪਿਯੋ ਪੋਤੇ ਪੀਛੇ ਨੁਹਾਂ ਨੂ ਸਾੜਦੇ

ਕੀ ਦਸਾਂ ਮੈਂ ਗਾਲਾਂ ਆਪਣੇ ਪੰਜਾਬ ਦਿਯਾ।...

ਸਸ ਜੇਹੜੀ ਕਰਦੀ ਦਾਜ ਲਈ ਮੁੰਡੇ ਦਾ ਘਰ ਬਰਬਾਦ ਵੀ
ਕੋਈ ਪੁਛੇ ਤੂ ਵੀ ਤਾਂ ਹੋਣੀ " ਧੀ" ਕਿਸੇ ਘਰ ਅਬਾਦ ਦੀ ,

ਘਟਦੀ ਜਾਂਦੀ ਜਿਥੇ ਗਿਣਤੀ ਸੋਹਣੀ ਮੁਤੀਯਾਰਾ ਦੀ
ਵਾਦਦੀ ਜਾਂਦੀ ਗਿਣਤੀ ਓਥੇ ਰੋਂਦੇ ਪਰਿਵਾਰਾ ਦੀ,

ਸਾੰਬ ਲੈਨਦਿਯਾ ਧਿਯਾਂ ਬੂਢ਼ੇ ਮਾਪੇਯਾ ਨੂੰ ,
ਕਹੰਦੇ ਸੀ ਜੋ ਧੀਏ ਤੂ ਜਮੀ ਹੀ ਕਯੋ ,

ਲਾਨ ਨਾਲੋ ਦਮਾਗ ਕੂੜਿਯਾਂ ਨੂੰ ਮਾਰਨ ਤੇ
ਕਰ ਲੋ ਥੋੜੀ ਮੇਹਨਤ ਮੁੰਡੇਯਾ ਨੂੰ ਸੁਧਾਰਨ ਤੇ.. 

Thursday, July 3, 2014

A Hindu Sai Follower

From the past few days I am hearing so many comments about the religion of Sai baba. These comments have really tried my patience and now it's the time to speak up. There are few things I want to ask from the religious saints, those who have issues with Sai baba.  First of all, if you are asking to ban the entry of Hindu followers in Sai Temples then please ban our entry in church, Khawaja ji ( ajmer sharif), golden temple or guruduwaras and every holy place you can think of except temples. Let me remind you, that there was a famous Muslim King Akbar who was a devotee of Lordess Durga, do you want to get such historical events deleted. Secondly, you said that Sai baba used to eat non-vegetarian food and he can't be a Hindu god. How about offering fish during Durga pooja, From the Bengali`s to the Punjabi`s, from Pakistani`s to American; there are countries where people eat non-veg as a meal and I think they also have place in heaven. This is not about what we eat and where we live; it's all about what we have in our heart. And now if we talk about the thoughts and feelings, I worship Sai baba.. When I crossed the eve teasing streets of India he protected me like a brother, when I didn't had money to pay for my expenditures he helped me like a father, whenever I suffered with illness he helped to recover like a mother...He is my god, my friend philosopher guide.... He is not a person or an idol.. He is my faith!! You may take away the stone idol from us but you cannot take away the faith from us.

And finally, if you are asking to choose between Sai and Ram... Then OM SAI RAM , may god bless you with better mentality and thoughts. 

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Is early age marriage the end of your career?

This question is augmented by many but is resolved by none. Just after my graduation I got married to my boyfriend. After few days of enjoyment and spending quality time with him, I came back to reality. I was a fresher and I had left my placement job for my marriage.  I applied for various posts in the new country but unfortunately none of them was meant for me. Either they were just jobs with no career or they required late hour’s work which was difficult for me. I actually started thinking that I ended my career before it was started.

This is the time when my mother explained me that don’t let this failure over shadow your dreams. Maybe it’s difficult to start up again, but it’s not impossible. Especially when we get married to a supportive guy. I made the list of the problems I was facing in getting a job and made them my strengths. The foremost problem was I was in another country. Many job opportunities I lost were due to the visa issue or certification of English proficiency. So my first priority was to choose the job which is open to the international citizens and to get credential of my English proficiency. The next target was to look for a career not for a job. According to me we should choose a career as per our interest. If we do something we love we will never feel bored of our job. In professional activities I was good at two things- one is writing and other is teaching. For teaching in engineering colleges the minimum requirement is of master`s and I did not had it at that time. I enrolled myself in the best university of Malaysia. Once we start running towards our goals, the doors for more opportunities starts opening up.

I came to know about the position of research assistant in the same university. It covers both of my interest of writing and teaching. It is more like a training process, our supervisor guide us towards the ameliorate performance. We study, manage the administrative duties within the group and whenever we get a chance we teach our juniors also. We cover all the sectors- we are in the education sector, create the corporates, behave like businessmen for projects and above all enjoy the life like a student.
Along with this we need to ignore what people are talking about us. Early or late marriages, they will just keep on criticizing. Don’t let them break your self-confidence and at this stage never get yourself indulged in antagonism. It is not essential that we need to defeat other for being successful. Invest your energy in personal development.

I love my job, I am growing in this field day by day. I am married but it didn't hampered my career. It’s all about how we face the problems and look for a solution. Now, unlike my few other friends I don’t hate my boss rather I am satisfied with my job.  So anyone who lost his job and is not getting a good one. Please look for a career of your interest and remember marriage has nothing to do with your career. 

Thursday, November 15, 2012


while watching a movie i realized that few people are so dedicated to the one they love. Even getting married to someone else seems to a small scarifice for them. they love to live for others but in the core of their heart they just love only one person. dedicated to all such lovers....

ਨਾ ਮਿਰਜ਼ੇ ਨੂ ਸਾਹਿਬਾ ਮਿੱਲੀ ਨਾ ਰਾਂਝੇ ਨੂ ਹੀਰ
ਅਜੇ ਵੀ ਮੇਰੇ ਦਿਲ ਵਿਚ ਜਿੰਦਾ ਹੈ ਤੇਰੇ ਪ੍ਯਾਰ ਦੀ ਪੀੜ

ਕ੍ਯੂ ਏਹ ਕਲਾਮ ਅਜੇ ਵੀ ਤੇਰੇ ਲੈ ਹੇ ਉਠਦੀ ਹੈ
ਕ੍ਯੂ ਹਜੇ ਵੀ ਏਹ " ਆਲੀਸ਼ਾ" ਤੇਰੇ ਪ੍ਯਾਰ ਚ ਝੁਕਦੀ ਹੈ

ਜਿਂਵੇ ਕਦ ਲਈ  ਇਕ ਜਿੰਦੜੀ ਤੇਰੇ ਇੰਤੇਜ਼ਾਰ ਚ ਮੈਂ ਦੂਜੀ ਵੀ ਕਦ ਜਾਵਾਂਗੀ

ਜਿੰਦੇ ਜੀ ਨਾ ਸਹੀ ਮੈਂ ਮਰ  ਕੇ ਤੇਰੀ ਹੋ ਜਾਵਾਂਗੀ .....

- ਆਲੀਸ਼ਾ

naa mirze nu sahiba milli na ranjhe nu heer
aaj v mere dil which zinda hai tere pyaar di peer,

kyu yeh kalam haje v meri sirf tere layi he uthdi hai
kyu haje v yeh "aalisha" sirf tere pyar ch he jhukdi hai,

jinwe kad layi ik jindadi tere intezaar ch main duji v kad jawangi

jinde ji na sahi, main mar ke teri ho javangi....

- Aalisha

Thursday, July 7, 2011


kaise bayan karu teri kudrat,teri khudai,
har kadam par bna tu meri parchai,
teri murat ab mere jehan me hai samai,
ab sharan mein le lo tum sai,
ab darshan de do tum sai!!!

har musibat mein bane tum meri dhaal,
shirdi ganv me kiye tumne kayi kamaal,
bure raaste par jaane se tumne liya sambhal,
ab to suljha do moh-maya ka jaal....
ab to sharan me le lo tum sai,
ab to apna bna lo mujhe sai!!!

teri rehmat se chalta yeh sansaar hai,
jis par ho teri nazar uska beda he paar hai,
mujhe acchai ka raasta dikhate chalo,
mere pyaar ko yuh hin apnate chalo,.,.,.

apne bhakton me kahin iss nadaan ko bhool na jana,
jaisi hun teri hun, ant me tum mujhe apnana,.,.
ab to sharan me le lo sai,
ab to darshan de mujhe sai!!!!!
i love u bhagvan ji!!!

कैसे बयां करू तेरी कुदरत ,तेरी खुदाई ,
हर कदम पर बना तू मेरी परछाई ,
तेरी मूरत अब मेरे जेहन में है समाई ,
अब शरण में ले लो तुम साईं ,
अब दर्शन दे दो तुम साईं !!!

हर मुसीबत में बने तुम मेरी ढाल ,
शिर्डी गाँव में किये तुमने कई कमाल ,
बुरे रास्ते पर जाने से तुमने लिया सँभाल ,
अब तो सुलझा दो मोह -माया का जाल ....
अब तो शरण में ले लो तुम साईं ,
अब तो अपना बना लो मुझे साईं !!!

तेरी रहमत से चलता यह संसार है ,
जिस पर हो तेरी नज़र उसका बेडा ही पार है ,
मुझे अच्छाई का रास्ता दिखाते चलो ,
मेरे प्यार को यू ही अपनाते चलो ,.,.,.

अपने भक्तों में कहीं इस नादान को भूल न जाना ,
जैसी हूँ तेरी हूँ , अंत में तुम मुझे अपनाना ,.,.
अब तो शरण में ले लो साईं ,
अब तो दर्शन दे दो मुझे साईं !!!!!